What if no one asked?

When children are asked what they want (for Christmas or birthday or whenever), of course, they are going to feel obliged to answer. 

So they think about it and think about it and notice what’s out there to be had–and the list grows and the gimme’s take over.  If you think about it, it just makes sense.

So what to do? Just don’t ask.

We started this from the beginning with both our boys–and despite their very different personalities, it worked.  It worked so well, that when out and about, if someone asked what they wanted for Christmas, they would stare back blankly.  One year one of them finally answered, “I don’t have to worry about that; Santa knows and always gets me cool things I want.”